Part 3 of 13: Research & Development
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Part 3 of 13: Research & Development

Return to “Establishing a Career in Adult Entertainment: Index” So, you’re still here after that long entry?? Then your gears must be turning… In “Part 1 of 13: I am a Courtesan,” I wrote that I would address more of the Who/What/When/Where/Why/How. I will flesh out some of these questions here, so that you (now that you have given some thought to which modalities from “Part 2 of 13: Modalities” are...

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Here is the love!

This post is rather like the flip-side to yesterday’s “Where is the love?” entry. If I was decrying entertainers who sabotage, then I also need to praise entertainers who collaborate (which is just as common, and is one of the points of tenuous balance in this career). Yes, there will be people who wish you ill. However, there will also be people who want you to succeed. Some will embrace you tightly. I firmly...

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Getting through the bad nights…

I’ve said this before, but I want to remind myself and all my adult entertainment friends of something I was told by Carlos (he seems to be my exotic dance guru – and for good reason, too!): Remember that you are valuable beyond what your earn. Separate your self-worth from what you make. You are more than your money. Working for tips is hard. You can’t plan. Some nights you’re on. Others, not so much....

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I don’t like a man with too many muscles…

In yet another example of how inaccurately I see myself, I was told by a patron last Saturday night that “I don’t like you big, muscley men. I like the skinny boiz.” Wow. I’m 5’7″ or 5’8″, and even with all the working out I’ve been doing I still weigh less than #150. But okay. Wasn’t expecting that one. My friend Carlos smiled and said, “Get used to it, papi –...

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Gratitude

It’s natural, I think, to want to make as much money as possible, given that cash is the life’s blood of the economy we live in. I may not like it, but money is necessary. Sometimes I get so tired of chasing after a buck, but then I realized something today: I enjoy what I get paid to do, and that isn’t something to take lightly. Often, entertainers (especially strippers, see differentiation here) will exaggerrate how much they make....

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