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Part 9 of 13: STDs

Posted by on 12:04 am in Career Advice | 0 comments

Part 9 of 13: STDs

Return to “Establishing a Career in Adult Entertainment: Index” Let’s get something very clear up front: I am not a doctor. Also, I’m not telling you to have sex for money. I’m not even assuming that you’ll have sex with your clients/club patrons/phone callers/Skype watchers/etc. (though it’s a given, if you choose to shoot videos that involve other people being in the scene with you). What I propose to do here is supply you with some no-nonsense advice. That’s all I’m able to do. Educate yourself....

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Sarah Palin said I’m worthless LOL

Posted by on 10:34 pm in Identity | 7 comments

Sarah Palin said I’m worthless LOL

I’ve begun the process of going to a councilor/therapist. Each week he offers me tools/exercises to help me contend with the issues we’re examining. We started with emotional journaling, so he could get a sense of how I was thinking and to what extent my moods were shifting. The next week he reminded me of the fundamental importance of breath, and how the quality of breath influences everything else in life. When my mood starts to feel elevated in any particular direction, I try to reinforce a habit/association of taking slow,...

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Thank you, Taylor!

Posted by on 9:06 pm in Love, Positivity | 2 comments

Thank you, Taylor!

Sometimes it seems like the universe is really intent on being a cuntfaced bitch, ya know? I was just in DC, and a completely random internet troll singled me out for some pretty intensely hateful shit. I mean, really? What the hell? I have no idea who this person is or why I won the lotto on getting his attention. And how do these utterly shameful bullies always know exactly what to say to cut your face to the bone? HOW? How do they know what to say??? Suffice it to say that on top of all the other many stressors competing for my attention...

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I have Hypercholesterolemia

Posted by on 10:15 am in Appearance, Career Advice | 8 comments

I have Hypercholesterolemia

I am back after an absolutely magnificent trip to Scotland. If you have never been, you really must go. Put it on your bucket list. I would live there, no doubt. I loved it! I came back feeling much better than before I left, and coming out of that funk made me realize that I need to be more proactive about taking care of myself emotionally. I was diagnosed Bipolar II in 1999, but I hadn’t had symptoms (that I could recognize) since 2011 or so, and I hadn’t had therapy since 2005. When everything started slowly unraveling in my...

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Happy Birthday, you can get married!

Posted by on 7:42 pm in Hurtful episodes, Identity, Uncategorized | 5 comments

Happy Birthday, you can get married!

Spoiler Alert: Dark and heavy existential crisis ahead. Go elsewhere, if this isn’t what you want right now. I’m leaving Sunday for a week in Scotland. I very much look forward to being there. I need a break from reality. If you continue reading, you might understand better why I crave escapism at the moment. I haven’t blogged consistently for years. At first I felt I had nothing new to say: I didn’t think it worth repeating myself. When I found myself contending with familiar personal issues, I merely pondered them...

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The 2015 Rate Hike

Posted by on 10:34 am in Career Advice | 5 comments

The 2015 Rate Hike

I have been dreading it for one year. I have been resisting it for two years. I have been considering it for three years. But now I really have no choice: I have to raise my rates. The fee schedule I originally created has been in place since 2010 – it has been untouched for over five years. I’m going to keep the structure essentially the same, but the base rate upon which I generate all the multi-hour discounts ($250 for a one-hour in-call) is no longer enough. In this entry I will explain again how I think about fees. I see a...

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Affirmations and Esteem

Posted by on 3:30 pm in Career Advice | 2 comments

Affirmations and Esteem

Some time back I made a trip to Philly to visit my friend Dean Sage. He is a very talented and creative writer, producer, and artist. While I was visiting we did a series of photo shoots and video interviews. This video is a short explanation concerning the problems that can come from going into adult entertainment for affirmations and/or approval. I hope you will find it helpful. In a nutshell: It is a mistake, because whether or not you get the affirmation/approval you seek, it will have very little to do with you as a person. It is far...

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RIP Gramma

Posted by on 1:05 pm in Uncategorized | 3 comments

Requiescat in Pace September 11, 1930 – March 27, 2015

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Two couplets for Gramma

Posted by on 12:59 am in Hurtful episodes, Love | 6 comments

Two couplets for Gramma

Gramma will pass away soon. She’s an artist and an author, so I wrote some couplets to give her tomorrow when I visit (click the picture to enlarge it). A recurrent theme in my creative works is the seasons. I don’t know who the artist is who made this beautiful image of a tree and landscape in all phases of the year, but I thought it was inspired. If anyone knows who made the image, please let me know so I can credit him/her (I’ve used it before on this blog). Gramma’s favorite color has always been blue. I made the...

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No Deposit, No Return

Posted by on 8:29 pm in Career Advice | 2 comments

No Deposit, No Return

WARNING: This is a rant, so if you don’t want to read something angry, just go somewhere else for now. I’ve been escorting for six years. In all that time I’ve almost never required a deposit. I’ve relied on intuition, and I’ve been alert and vigilant. I have looked for red flags, and I listen to my instinct. In fact, I get stood up way less than most of the other escorts I’ve talked to about this. Some potential clients have complained I make it too difficult to connect with me, because I don’t...

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