Touch it

There are thousands of types of touch. But, for me, they break down into three overarching categories: Subtractive, Neutral, and Additive. If you are going to be an entertainer, you have to be okay with being touched. It’s simply part of the job (unless you’re in one of those bizarre U.S. states where the dancer performs in the middle of a cage/stage with an enclosement of chicken wire that stands as a barracade five feet...

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Black dancers don’t make any money?

Perhaps this isn’t the case where you live? But I’m working throughout Georgia, North Carolina, and South Carolina. I can speak only from my own experience… I know several gorgeous dancers of color. Some are Latino, one is Asian, and the remaining are African American. Most of the Latinos do very well, and so does the Asian. I frequently hear complaints from those who are Black, or some mix thereof. I cannot speak...

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Advice for skin care

“Hey! I came across your blog on the RealJock site. Very interesting and insightful. I’m a bartender and your post about working hard for a dollar is soooo right on. Sometimes I will be so busy pouring drinks and someone will refuse to get out of the way until I’ve acknowledged that they gave me a dollar. This is after their 3 jaeger bombs and 4 cocktails totalling $30+. Fuckers. Hah! “So, your pics are also...

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Tattoos: The ultimate long term relationship

I will admit this freely: I am commitment-phobic. I’ve parted ways with many a hot buddy (did I just out myself as a total slut?), because of the pressure (or perceived pressure) to consider something more than physical romps. I don’t want it. At all. NO! Just the notion that someone wants anything from me is enough to make the elevator gown down to the basement. I wasn’t always like that. I gave until it hurt. I did that far too many...

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The balance of bisexuality

Bisexual people have to be some of the most marginalized in our culture. They’re too queer for heterosexuals to understand or empathize with, and they’re too straight for queers to trust or fully embrace. The former tend to lump any degree of bisexuality together with “gay,” and the latter tend to stigmatize them as cowards or indiscriminate sluts. However, bisexuality is a true sexuality – it is not just...

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Grab your gear!

So, now that you wanna be a strippa and you’ve gotten through the audition… what do you take with you to work?? Here’s some helpful stuff to keep in your duffle/gear bag: A change of several thongs/underwear, an extra pair of socks, at least a second choice for footwear, armbands, breath spray/mints, deodorant, a large towel, Neutrogena sesame oil (avoid baby oil or any other product that contains mineral oil –...

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