Affirmations and Esteem
Apr04

Affirmations and Esteem

Some time back I made a trip to Philly to visit my friend Dean Sage. He is a very talented and creative writer, producer, and artist. While I was visiting we did a series of photo shoots and video interviews. This video is a short explanation concerning the problems that can come from going into adult entertainment for affirmations and/or approval. I hope you will find it helpful. In a nutshell: It is a mistake, because whether or not...

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GaySexCast Interviews Devon
Aug29

GaySexCast Interviews Devon

Recently I had a conversation with Lichen Craig, one of the hosts at GaySexCast.com. During our talk we introduced her audience to some of the concepts I have been blogging about over the years, particularly as they pertain to professionalism and self esteem. Please click here if you would like to hear the podcast!

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He lives! Birthday 2013
Jun27

He lives! Birthday 2013

To quote Mrs. Doubtfire, “Well, helloooooooooooo!” Yes, I am still alive. And I would like to make an observation: I rarely blog anymore, because I haven’t needed to. This space was a place for me to iron out some wrinkles (often as part of helpful conversations with readers who shared their insights with me), and hopefully help others iron their own vicariously. Sometimes I think I actually did just that. At any...

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They’re ba-ack… I cast thee out!
Jul17

They’re ba-ack… I cast thee out!

The last several days have been incredibly topsey turvey. I was in Denver for the first time this past weekend (trying to relax from a very hectic two weeks after the launch of my new site), and feeling really great about a decision I made before my wedding to recreate my diet, fitness, and body. I am now 36 years old, and I know that at some point in the next several years my testosterone levels will change, and it will become even...

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XOXO from Honduras…
Jun17

XOXO from Honduras…

Dear Devon: I’m a young man writing from Honduras to let you know about the positive impact your fantastic blog has had on my life. I stumbled upon your page while I was doing a little research about sexuality since I’ve been struggling with this aspect of my life lately, and I have to say, I never thought something like a website could provide not only the amount of specific information I was looking for, but such...

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I do: The countdown…
Apr15

I do: The countdown…

I can’t believe how nervous and giddy I am… In 10 weeks I am going to be 36 years old, and I am going to complete a process that began years ago: I am going to marry myself. I first mentioned this on the blog in December, 2010; however, I had the idea in December, 2008. I began a process of paying down fraud debt, and in December, 2009 I selected my engagement band. I took possession of the band and made my announcement....

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Authenticity
Sep22

Authenticity

Hello, Devon! Just wanted to quickly offer some overdue thanks to you! I’m not sure if you remember our couple email exchanges–it’s been a while. You offered some great advice to me on accepting myself and allowing people to know me fully and authentically. And getting to know myself at that level as well. Well, that really, really stuck with me! Like really! Long story short–I’m gay. I’ve accepted...

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Breakthrough on eating issue
May11

Breakthrough on eating issue

So, if you are ever interested, you can see here how I have discussed an ongoing eating issue. I’m not going to go into it here, and I’m not going to post links, because a lot of that history is embarrassing and painful, and I don’t feel like looking at it right now (especially when I have such good news). If you want to know more on the “back story” of this, you can do a search at the bottom of the page...

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“True You,” by Janet Jackson (part 2 of 3)
Feb28

“True You,” by Janet Jackson (part 2 of 3)

I got this amazing email today, and I wanted to share its spirit with you – I am continuously reminded how good people can be, and I hope this unexpected continuation on “True You” makes you feel as good as it does me. This message was sent in response to “True You, ” by Janet Jackson (part 1 of 3). My response will be part 3. ———- “Hey young man, Read your blog. Found myself, as...

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“True You,” by Janet Jackson (part 1 of 3)
Feb26

“True You,” by Janet Jackson (part 1 of 3)

I make no secret of the fact that I love Janet Jackson: OMFG ILOVEJANETDAMITAJOJACKSON! OMG! I think she is one of the most amazing human beings. EVER. I know it’s excruciatingly melodramatic for some of you to bear it, but my eyes water up just typing about her. I admire her for her heart more than anything else, and I have never been a fan who liked her only when she was skinny. I continue to contend with my own eating and...

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