Here is the love!

This post is rather like the flip-side to yesterday’s “Where is the love?” entry. If I was decrying entertainers who sabotage, then I also need to praise entertainers who collaborate (which is just as common, and is one of the points of tenuous balance in this career). Yes, there will be people who wish you ill. However, there will also be people who want you to succeed. Some will embrace you tightly. I firmly...

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Where is the love?

I’ve not talked too much about the competitive nature of what I do. I’ve mentioned office drama vaguely. In fact, I’m not sure I’ve ever mentioned it directly at all. Perhaps a few instances here and there of “if you see others doing well, and you’re not, don’t take it personally…” But I don’t recall ever mentioning what the dressing room is like… It’s definitely...

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Feel the burn…

Scotty asked me this weekend how I avoid burnout. I’ve talked about this in a couple postings already (click here, click here, or click here), but I’ve not gone into much beyond the advice that you should take time off. I’ve mentioned driving through the mountains. Stuff like that. But I’ve enjoyed a longevity in this career, because of a particular advantage I have: I am a dancer. When I make the statement,...

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Yes to cosmetic surgery

This blog concerns a controversial and personal issue: To have cosmetic surgeries and other appearance altering processes. Scotty, my best friend whom I blogged about recently, suggested I discuss this (and he gave me his permission to use his example). Some people will argue that altering your appearance betrays a sense of self-loathing or a feeling of inadequacy. However, I find that to be hypocritical. Have you ever styled and/or...

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Dance of the fickle dick… er, Richard

Once in college I walked into Wal-Mart (not something I do very often mind you) at Easter, and lo and behold: Peeps were on sale. There are like four or five in a box, and the boxes were sealed into a block of four boxes. I bought and ate a block of Peeps in less than five minutes. I was okay… at first. What next ensued was a rapid sugar high, whereupon I wrote the following “poem:”   “Dance of the Fickle...

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Adventures of the disappointing dick pump, part 3

Wow. Scotty read about my (mis)adventures (see part 1), and decided he wanted to give it a go. I mean really: It’s rather like when you say, “Ew! This stinks like a dead body… Smell this!” And then you do… I suppose he thought I was exaggerating, and wanted to see if it really was so awful. Okay. Let me put this in perspective for you. Scotty smokes, he speaks slowly, he mumbles so much that I can almost...

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Bubba: I love my bubba.

I think what I want this blog to do, more than anything else, is help people in general realize that adult entertainment is a job and career like any other. It has perks and challenges. It has all the same salient features as any other career, but the product/service you are selling is… YOURSELF. That can be said of any sales person though. With that said, I want to bring attention to the fact that networking, friendship,...

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Burning bridges: Karma’s merry-go-round

I found out yesterday that someone has double crossed me. I don’t say that with shock on my face, but I also don’t want to come across as jaded. Let me simply say this: I’m not surprised, and yet my feelings are still hurt. Remember this, no matter what you do, whether you plan to become a doctor or an exotic dancer, you will get back what you give out. A career is a career, and there are people involved. It makes...

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