The decay of model privacy: Mason Wyler

As many of you will remember, I’m the former Sean Cody model whose legal name was revealed in retaliation for speaking about their process for making videos, and I want to add my voice to this discussion about Mason Wyler’s HIV-status being leaked. No matter how Mason’s status became known, it wasn’t by his own choosing, and that should not be tolerated AT ALL. His medical information is private, and the status...

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Misogyny as the language of homophobia

When I was a college professor one of the only writing assignments I gave to my Dance Appreciation classes was the following: Write a two-page paper explaining how your major is connected to dance, and also why taking my class was not a waste of your time. Something that I wanted to drive home to my students was that everything in this life is connected. Everything. I can show you dance, but only you can show appreciation for how it...

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Rant: Livelihood vs career

In light of what is happening with Rekers there are a great many conversations out there dominated by people who should shut the fuck up. “Escorting is a livelihood, not a career.” Oh, really? Well, look who knows so much. Let’s take a moment to evaluate whether or not escorting is a career. A career is that work one does for which one is paid, and it is generally supported by personal investment, training,...

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Street walkers, walking into darkness

So, the title for this entry is a reference to a song by Michael Jackson from his album Dangerous called “Why You Wanna Trip On Me?” It’s appropriate, because of a situation involving an escort whom I met last weekend in New York City. For almost a year now I have met many great people, both clients and colleagues, but I had yet to meet someone who completely falls into the stereotypical chaos that (until recently?)...

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The customer is always right (except when he’s wrong)

I work in a service-based industry (ahem). And this means that I, as much as (if not more than) anyone else in customer service, have to contend with the maxim “The customer is always right;” however, I find that I need to express some thoughts about this, given the extremely personal nature of my business. Although all salesmen know “the customer is always right,” they also know that this is always true...

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Safer Sex Tip: Durex’s Avanti BARE condoms are AWESOME

C-Money’s turn to scold me about not blogging enough… SAWWY!! Okay, in my young gay life I have managed to achieve orgasm while wearing a condom only two times. I use condoms with increasing frequency (I have definitely improved DRASTICALLY since I last blogged about this), approaching, I’d guess, 95% now. I am very proud of this. It has taken me years to develop the discipline, self-esteem, and hope/optimism to...

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Utterly irresponsible

I am about to write this blog with the full knowledge that it could set off a series of conflicts later. I also want to preface what I’m about to say by admitting that I am in no way perfect in regards to safe sex. In fact, I’m not very good at being consistent with practicing it. I know the risks, I know the consequences, but (like a huge number of people) I have not completely embraced 100% safe sex (and I don’t...

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Condoms are so 1985

Believe it or not, this is the response I got from three different people in D.C. last weekend. I’d asked three people if they’d like to be part of an advertising campaign to promote safe sex. All three rejected me. Two said, “Condoms are so 1985,” and the third said, “Condoms are so 1980’s.” A fourth person finally said “yes,” but I’ve not heard from him since. It had never...

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