Affirmations and Esteem
Apr04

Affirmations and Esteem

Some time back I made a trip to Philly to visit my friend Dean Sage. He is a very talented and creative writer, producer, and artist. While I was visiting we did a series of photo shoots and video interviews. This video is a short explanation concerning the problems that can come from going into adult entertainment for affirmations and/or approval. I hope you will find it helpful. In a nutshell: It is a mistake, because whether or not...

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XOXO from Honduras…
Jun17

XOXO from Honduras…

Dear Devon: I’m a young man writing from Honduras to let you know about the positive impact your fantastic blog has had on my life. I stumbled upon your page while I was doing a little research about sexuality since I’ve been struggling with this aspect of my life lately, and I have to say, I never thought something like a website could provide not only the amount of specific information I was looking for, but such...

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Interview: Angel Cruz and Devon talk about hot menzes

One of the topics that comes up every once in a while on my blog is the intersection of race and adult entertainment: Race, Homophobia, and Porn Race and tipping at strip clubs Black dancers work too hard for too little For some time now I have been having a little back-and-forth conversation with Angel Cruz, a former model on CoCoDorm.com, a live video chat site featuring Black and Latino college guys. Angel enjoys blogging, and you...

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Dan Savage: It gets better

I stumbled upon a very empowering video today, and I feel the need to share it. Nothing to say that it doesn’t say on its own, except that I wish someone had said this to me when I needed to hear it most. I hope this encourages you, even if you are hearing it years later than you had hoped to:

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Good vs Right

Dear Devon, As you pursue your new full time career, please know that you are not doing anything wrong… I do not think you are, nor do I think I am wrong for hiring escorts… Also, consider hiring escorts yourself and enjoying them, so that you are learning to be the best you can be. Good luck to you! T Dear T – I definitely believe in fostering Good. And that’s a philosophical point I’ve written about:...

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-1 + 1 = 0

It was brought to my attention that there are sites that do nothing but discuss the material that is generated at places like Sean Cody, Corbin Fisher, and Randy Blue. What’s more, it was brought to my attention that people can respond to those critiques/discussions. There are so many opinions out there… It’s pretty amazing how much they can differ from person to person or site to site. It’s also amazing the...

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Dear John…

Dear Devon, By the time you read this I will be gone. We’ve been together so long, that it hurts me to leave you. I want you to know that I’ll always be there waiting. Even if it’s only in your memories. You don’t need me anymore, so I have to say goodbye. You turned 33 yesterday (excuse me, 24 for the ninth time). It was an amazingly beautiful day in Charlotte, NC. The sun was bright, but not scalding. The sky...

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Frank Kameny iz N da (guest) house!

This week I’m in Washington, D.C. helping with various Pride activities to which I committed myself. Last night was an event I’d not originally planned on being part of, but I’m really excited I got to be here nonetheless. Last night Dr. Terry, the man behind the FUK!T campaign, hosted a fundraiser here at The Artists’ Inn Residence for an organization that is planning to open a permenant museum for LGBTQ...

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Fessing Up: The dirty little secrets of the gay community

Hello everyone! It’s absolutely gorgeous today in Washington, D.C.!! I love Dupont Circle on a pretty day (yes, I love the Fruit Loop). I hope this finds you well. Below is the link I promised for the story I wrote for Matt Comer’s blog at www.InterstateQ.com. The essay I wrote is part 5 of 5, but when you go to Matt’s page you will find the links for the first four installments at the bottom of the page. Happy...

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Who should NOT be a dancer?

Dear Devon, I was wondering… Is there anyone who should absolutely not dance? I mean, other than looks wise, is there something about a person that should be a red flag to not get into it? My sister is interested in dancing, but I think she lives too dangerously to be good at it. – Big Brother   Dear Big Brother, I can definitely appreciate why you would have trepidation. Aside from the fact that there are negative...

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