Don’t be a vectem, betch.

“How are you?” I asked. “Fine.” “Where are you from?” “Ft. Lauderdale. There are other bystanders here for you to victimize. You can go now.” “I’m glad this will be the only time I ever have to interact with you.” Honestly, why would you go to a club that showcases dancers, and then act like we’re there to “victimize” you? I’ve had a variety of...

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Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde

It occurred to me, after reflecting some about my experience, at that party from last week, that there is a Jekyll & Hyde phenomenon lurking in many club patrons, gay men in particular. It also occurred to me that there is a day & night phenomenon that I want to explore for a few moments. What follows isn’t researched or cited – it’s simply my dialogue with myself about the observations I have about the...

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Lap dance etiquette

There is an art to giving a good lap dance, but there is also an art to receiving them. There are some people to whom I greatly enjoy giving dances, because they are so good at getting them. That might seem strange, but here are a few considerations while receiving your lap dance: It may seem like a no-brainer, but please shower before you come to the club. Brushing your teeth is good too. The first few times you get a dance from an...

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Gratitude

It’s natural, I think, to want to make as much money as possible, given that cash is the life’s blood of the economy we live in. I may not like it, but money is necessary. Sometimes I get so tired of chasing after a buck, but then I realized something today: I enjoy what I get paid to do, and that isn’t something to take lightly. Often, entertainers (especially strippers, see differentiation here) will exaggerrate how much they make....

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Degradation vs satisfaction

How’s this for a little verbal exchange I had this weekend: “I don’t tip dancers.” “That’s why we don’t talk to you.” “Why do you degrade yourself this way?” Wow. Let’s look at that scenario again… who do you think is feeling degraded by being in that club? It’s rather funny to me that so many people assume that being an entertainer is degrading. Hell, my...

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Oily strippers work my nerves!

  Okay, first let me say this: I use a little oil. Why? Because it helps my skin and musculature show up better under the glaring lights onstage. I prefer Neutrogena’s light sesame bath oil. It’s really thin, it works like a liquid lotion, it absorbs readily into your skin, it has no fragrance and it doesn’t clog pores. I apply it conservatively, and I try to make sure it’s all completely off my hands before I go onstage and touch the...

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Exotic Dancers vs Strippers

I normally don’t take offense to the term stripper, because I know most people don’t understand the difference between a stripper and an exotic dancer; however, now you will… So… no more excuses Exotic Dancers concern themselves foremost with performance and fantasy. We believe it is our job to be good hosts, to interact with people flirtatiously and politely, and we tend to take very good care of our personal presentation. We tend to...

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Strip club etiquette

You’re feelin’ it – it’s the night you’ve been waitin’ for… ya gonna go out and see some hot men dance in their underwear (or something even less)… Hell, you might even be feelin’ a lap dance if one of the hotties inspires you. C’mon out to the club, baby – we’ll have a good time… Here are 10 pointers to remember before you come up in the joint: 1. Bring money: Clubs are businesses. Businesses are open to generate money. Dancers are...

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