Burning bridges: Karma’s merry-go-round

I found out yesterday that someone has double crossed me. I don’t say that with shock on my face, but I also don’t want to come across as jaded. Let me simply say this: I’m not surprised, and yet my feelings are still hurt. Remember this, no matter what you do, whether you plan to become a doctor or an exotic dancer, you will get back what you give out. A career is a career, and there are people involved. It makes...

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Don’t ask, don’t tell

My entire life there has never been any question whatsoever from anyone I’ve ever met as to my sexuality. Suddenly that has changed. In February, 2008 I was dancing at WareHouse 250 in Florence, SC and no one would talk to me, make eye contact, or approach me. When I asked then-owner Jeffrey Brown what was happening he said, “They think you’re straight, and they’re scared to touch you.” The DJ then made...

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Gay-sek-shul, bi-sek-shul, buy-sek-shul, & pay-sek-shul

Many, if not most, male exotic dancers in gay clubs are straight. Case in point: At Swinging Richards in Atlanta only 5-10 of the 60-65 dancers like men. I often get asked, “How can a truly straight guy allow men to touch him?” It’s quite simple: Until the mid-19th century there was no such concept as identity based on sexuality. No one was homosexual. The term itself didn’t exist until 1869. Although no one was homosexual as we...

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Gay men fawning over straight dancers

  There was a man named Dave in Atlanta at Swinging Richards who was in love with one of my favorite dancers, Charlie. Dave lived in Chicago, but he would fly in a couple times a month just to see Charlie. He was “in love” with Charlie, and wouldn’t talk to any of the other dancers. He wanted all Charlie’s attention, and he would get jealous when he’d watch Charlie give dances to other patrons. To complicate the issue even more, Dave...

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