Interview: Stacey Swimme of St. James Infirmary

Devon Hunter: Please tell me: a) the contact info you would want used in the interview, b) a brief description of the organization’s history,  c) and how the organization fills a gap in standard attitudes towards sex workers. Stacey Swimme: I am the Development Director of St. James Infirmary. St. James Infirmary provides compassionate and non-judgmental health care and social services for all sex workers, while preventing...

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Drawing the line

I went for lunch and a walk in the park today, because for the third day in a row it would be spiritually negligent to not. It is so pretty here lately – it’s hard to believe there was snow on the ground a week ago. The trees and flowers are putting out buds; the clover is bright green, with little purple pin-striped blooms; and I even saw my first massive bee of the season. The bees look so plump and lazy, the way they...

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Dear Harlow,

Dear Harlow, I just watched the videos that were produced for the here! network, and I wanted to take a moment to tell you that your story has not gone unheard and unfelt. I want you to know that there are people who see that “even a gay porn actor” is innocent until proven guilty. I want you to know that there are people who are not entertained by your misery. I want you to know that you are right every time you say your...

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What’s with the arm bands?

Dear Devon, So what’s the deal with go-go boys wearing those bands up around the top of their biceps?  What’s that all about? -Eli Hey Eli, The bands above the biceps 1) are a place to be tipped if touching other parts of the body isn’t allowed  2) are a place to keep tips if your underwear gets too full (and looks like a baggy diaper or the money starts poking/rubbing badly) 3) advertise that others are tipping you...

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Adventures of the disappointing dick pump, part 3

Wow. Scotty read about my (mis)adventures (see part 1), and decided he wanted to give it a go. I mean really: It’s rather like when you say, “Ew! This stinks like a dead body… Smell this!” And then you do… I suppose he thought I was exaggerating, and wanted to see if it really was so awful. Okay. Let me put this in perspective for you. Scotty smokes, he speaks slowly, he mumbles so much that I can almost...

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Adventures of the disappointing dick pump, part 2

Okay, so lube didn’t help. Suffice it to say that I’m not very pleased with this contraption of torture. Everything I already said is ditto today, except stickier and sweatier. UGH! I am simply going to look for other options… In part 1 of this little adventure I mentioned a practice called “tying off.” This is when a man ties something around his penis in order to keep it hard while performing. Some guys...

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Adventures of the disappointing dick pump, part 1

Okay, at Swinging Richards in Atlanta we dance buck-nekkid-n-faymoose. There is a common concern amongst the dancers: Between dancing, stage fright, air conditioning/cold weather you can look like a 3-year-old on stage in a hot (cold?) minute. It’s illegal for us (or anyone else) to touch our penises once we’re naked, so there’s all sorts of disguised “preparation” happening on stage just before the pants...

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Tips and taxes

First, I’m not an accountant. I’m just trying to stay organized. This blog entry isn’t so much advice as it is an explanation of one way to handle your money. You’ll need to talk to a tax professional. So, with that said, here is what you need to consider: If you do not files taxes long enough you will get audited, and then you’ll owe all sorts of money and be in trouble. Better to just bite the bullet...

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Caveat emptor

Let the buyer beware… There are some red flags you should be aware of when you go to a club. SOB licenses (sexually oriented business) are required in many places in order for lap dances to be permissible. Depending on the state/county/city laws, getting a lap dance in a club that isn’t properly licensed can get the dancer and/or the patron arrested. Of course everyone will say they are licensed, but how do you make an...

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I have a client who wants to take it out of the club…

First, I am not advocating prostitution. Second, I’m also not judging it. I’m simply going to ask you some (biased) questions that may help you to decide whether or not you want to leave the club and go to a private place: Do you really need the money that badly? It’s just money, afterall. Are you being greedy or lazy? Isn’t there some other way you could make the money? Do you need such a large amount of money...

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