Roid Rage
Mar05

Roid Rage

Okay, so the title of this post probably implies to you that I am experiencing rage because of steroid use. That would be true; however, I am experiencing rage that OTHER people use them, and I still don’t. I find myself more and more tempted to use them as time goes on. I have been working out for 22 years, and sometimes the journey seems like it will never end (probably because it never will). I have decided once again not to...

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“True You” (Part 3 of 3)
Sep08

“True You” (Part 3 of 3)

(Part 1 of this series was published on February 26, 2011.  Part 2 of this series was published on February 28, 2011. I then forgot to complete the task until now…) “Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Comparisons are almost always harmful. Comparisons mean there’s a winner and loser – and you’re the one who winds up feeling like a loser.” – Janet Jackson “I am most beautiful when I’m allowed to nurture my own...

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Nailed it!
Sep06

Nailed it!

Lately I have been roiled with feelings of inadequacy. I mean, truly shitty feelings. I’ve not felt this bad in YEARS, and I had forgotten exactly how powerfully awful my emotions can get. I don’t take for granted the many consecutive years of happiness I enjoyed, and I really need to get back to that place where I was content and brimming with gratitude. I am not in full-blown depression, but I have come closer these last...

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GaySexCast Interviews Devon
Aug29

GaySexCast Interviews Devon

Recently I had a conversation with Lichen Craig, one of the hosts at GaySexCast.com. During our talk we introduced her audience to some of the concepts I have been blogging about over the years, particularly as they pertain to professionalism and self esteem. Please click here if you would like to hear the podcast!

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RIP @JasminePetite
Jul12

RIP @JasminePetite

Petite Jasmine was murdered, and I am so sad and angry about it that I feel compelled to blog about it. I have said/apologized in my “recent” entries that I haven’t blogged consistently for a while, because I haven’t needed to. I haven’t had a reason, or I haven’t wanted to be repetitive. This blog is my diary, and it has many purposes (one of which has been to be a place to discuss issues that are...

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He lives! Birthday 2013
Jun27

He lives! Birthday 2013

To quote Mrs. Doubtfire, “Well, helloooooooooooo!” Yes, I am still alive. And I would like to make an observation: I rarely blog anymore, because I haven’t needed to. This space was a place for me to iron out some wrinkles (often as part of helpful conversations with readers who shared their insights with me), and hopefully help others iron their own vicariously. Sometimes I think I actually did just that. At any...

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They’re ba-ack… I cast thee out!
Jul17

They’re ba-ack… I cast thee out!

The last several days have been incredibly topsey turvey. I was in Denver for the first time this past weekend (trying to relax from a very hectic two weeks after the launch of my new site), and feeling really great about a decision I made before my wedding to recreate my diet, fitness, and body. I am now 36 years old, and I know that at some point in the next several years my testosterone levels will change, and it will become even...

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XOXO from Honduras…
Jun17

XOXO from Honduras…

Dear Devon: I’m a young man writing from Honduras to let you know about the positive impact your fantastic blog has had on my life. I stumbled upon your page while I was doing a little research about sexuality since I’ve been struggling with this aspect of my life lately, and I have to say, I never thought something like a website could provide not only the amount of specific information I was looking for, but such...

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Say huh?
Jun11

Say huh?

I admit I am rather confused as to why so many people are still expressing shock that homophobia exists on gay video sets. I think I covered this in a very detailed manner two years ago. As annoying as it is, nearly a fifth of the traffic that comes to my blog is still to read about that, so yes I am definitely confused. At any rate, I’m glad Austin Wilde’s situation is creating backlash against homophobia in gay video. I...

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Taking off the mask
Apr25

Taking off the mask

So, the idea behind the theme of my wedding is that we create beautiful or idealized façades that we hide behind, and the process of marrying myself has been one where I have had to look at myself as I am and try to accept what I find (which can be terrifying, in all honesty). No mask, no hiding, just plain old me. But now that the mask has arrived, I have made an accidental discovery that is metaphoric in itself: Wearing this mask is...

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