The skin game

One of the reasons I wanted to wait to respond to the question posed on March 17, 2009’s entry concerning race is because I wanted to view the situation in a club outside of the South. Before I continue, I would like to add that I welcome comments and constructive discussions here; however, if I do say something that is insensitive or irresponsible, I invite anyone to point it out. To paraphrase a concept articulated by Obama...

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…in the end

“The universe knows what it’s doing.” “I have to trust that everything happens for a reason.” “God gives us only what we can shoulder.” “Everthing will turn out okay in the end.” There is a particular grace required to truly be content, despite any particular dissapointments life throws at us. The question of issues surrounding race has come up, and I intend to address it; however,...

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My funny valentine

Dear Devon, I just finished reading one of your blogs and I think you may be able to give me some insight in a situation I find myself in. In the past 2 months, I met a guy. He is a massage therapist, ex dancer. He constantly is placing ads on Craigs List to get clients. I felt we had hit it off the first session. I went back to a second session and I thoroughly enjoyed it. Nothing happened sexually. Since then I have reached out to...

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Just Devon! (2009) *insert Will & Grace hand gesture

Odd. Especially given yesterday’s mortifyingly pathetic blog about Allen. I’ve been getting a new affirmation that I’d not anticipated: The gay superhero/role model. Y’all, I’m 5’7-ish, weigh 150-ish pounds, and I screw up more than almost anyone I’ve ever met (no “-ish” on that one). Look at the humiliating bullshit I subjected myself to for two weeks with a gorgeous, but...

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Update on Reginald (Sapphires, part 2)

I was obsessed with a piece of jewelry. I bought it, despite some trepidation and guilt. And I do not regret it at all, now that I can wear it whenever I want (though I generally reserve it for special occasions). I believe someone expressed the doubt that it looked like something a “grandmother” would wear (although, for personal reasons, I’m offended more that someone would use the term grandmother in such a way...

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Fuck my husband

In all honesty, most women at clubs ignore me completely: I’m shorter than most dancers, I’m nowhere near as aggressive or shadowy (which girls at male strip clubs seem to want more than the nice guys they can see anytime at home), and I make no secret of the fact that I’m gay. I understand completely why I would be invisible to most women at a strip club – there’s really no fantasy that they might seduce...

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Interview: Chizzad of GuysDivine.com

Devon Hunter (DH): What do you do at www.GuysDivine.com? GuysDivine.com (GD): Currently on the site we offer live webcam chats in which we show off the male body, and tease the audience a little in a sometimes sexual manner. We also offer a variety of pictures, but our main focus is the live chats and HD chat archives. We stream live with a webcam, and record the chat at the same time with an HD camcorder, which we later upload to the...

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Speaking from a place of vulnerability

Dear Devon, My stage name is Jasper, but my real name is Marcus. I just wanted to be clear on that, so that when I don’t sign this “Jasper,” you’ll know why. Anyway, I think you understand when I say it’s difficult to let people in. But I’ve been single a long time, and I met someone that I like and I’m ready to love again. Or ready to try anyway – I know failure is a possibility, but...

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The grasshopper and the ant (Sapphires, part 1)

I’ve become obsessed over the last two weeks by a particularly beautiful pendant, which is set in silver and has an engraved back. It’s by John Hardy. The Naga Lava line is quite exquisite (click to enlarge). I love the alternating black and blue or red sapphires. I’m tired of this object invading my thoughts and my dreams. I’ve “decided” to splurge, even though I’m feeling stressed out about...

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Dating an exotic dancer: What you need to know

Last week there was a bit of a crisis with one of my friends and his girlfriend. She’d found some text messages on his phone that were (to an uninformed eye) extrememly shady and hurtful at best. I had to explain to her why she should not be upset about this particular set of messages from another woman. I was surprised that after nearly a year there were so many details she wasn’t aware of. My friend should have explained...

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