Burning bridges: Karma’s merry-go-round

I found out yesterday that someone has double crossed me. I don’t say that with shock on my face, but I also don’t want to come across as jaded. Let me simply say this: I’m not surprised, and yet my feelings are still hurt. Remember this, no matter what you do, whether you plan to become a doctor or an exotic dancer, you will get back what you give out. A career is a career, and there are people involved. It makes...

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Would you say this to anyone else?

This past weekend I was supposed to see Janet Jackson in concert; however, she was sick, so after driving to Greensboro, NC I immediately had to turn around and drive back to Charlotte. That sucked. Really bad. We’re having a gas shortage, so I’m out the gas, I’m out the concert, and I’m out the night of work. To make it worse my new roommate’s dog attacked me when I got home, and when I decided to leave...

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Don’t ask, don’t tell

My entire life there has never been any question whatsoever from anyone I’ve ever met as to my sexuality. Suddenly that has changed. In February, 2008 I was dancing at WareHouse 250 in Florence, SC and no one would talk to me, make eye contact, or approach me. When I asked then-owner Jeffrey Brown what was happening he said, “They think you’re straight, and they’re scared to touch you.” The DJ then made...

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You must know you’re hot…

I cannot speak for other entertainers, but I myself am riddled with issues surrounding my appearance. I was anorexic for eight years. Then I developed a good strong case of Body Dysmorphic Disorder, which I still struggle with. Perhaps it’s because of what I do, but insecurities about my body take a disproportionate amount of brain space. I see myself as bird chested with a pot belly, spindly limbs and a huge head. I really...

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Play on, playa…

I worked this weekend at a really beautiful club, which was more like a gay entertainment complex than a club. It had at least four sections, not to mention an outdoor patio area more akin to an enclosed football field. It was huge! The people were friendly, the place was well-designed and clean, and they even had a shower area for the dancers behind plate glass. Very cool. I was, however, accused this weekend of being a player...

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Lap dance etiquette

There is an art to giving a good lap dance, but there is also an art to receiving them. There are some people to whom I greatly enjoy giving dances, because they are so good at getting them. That might seem strange, but here are a few considerations while receiving your lap dance: It may seem like a no-brainer, but please shower before you come to the club. Brushing your teeth is good too. The first few times you get a dance from an...

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Gratitude

It’s natural, I think, to want to make as much money as possible, given that cash is the life’s blood of the economy we live in. I may not like it, but money is necessary. Sometimes I get so tired of chasing after a buck, but then I realized something today: I enjoy what I get paid to do, and that isn’t something to take lightly. Often, entertainers (especially strippers, see differentiation here) will exaggerrate how much they make....

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Degradation vs satisfaction

How’s this for a little verbal exchange I had this weekend: “I don’t tip dancers.” “That’s why we don’t talk to you.” “Why do you degrade yourself this way?” Wow. Let’s look at that scenario again… who do you think is feeling degraded by being in that club? It’s rather funny to me that so many people assume that being an entertainer is degrading. Hell, my...

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Oily strippers work my nerves!

  Okay, first let me say this: I use a little oil. Why? Because it helps my skin and musculature show up better under the glaring lights onstage. I prefer Neutrogena’s light sesame bath oil. It’s really thin, it works like a liquid lotion, it absorbs readily into your skin, it has no fragrance and it doesn’t clog pores. I apply it conservatively, and I try to make sure it’s all completely off my hands before I go onstage and touch the...

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Exotic Dancers vs Strippers

I normally don’t take offense to the term stripper, because I know most people don’t understand the difference between a stripper and an exotic dancer; however, now you will… So… no more excuses Exotic Dancers concern themselves foremost with performance and fantasy. We believe it is our job to be good hosts, to interact with people flirtatiously and politely, and we tend to take very good care of our personal presentation. We tend to...

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