Black dancers don’t make any money?

Perhaps this isn’t the case where you live? But I’m working throughout Georgia, North Carolina, and South Carolina. I can speak only from my own experience… I know several gorgeous dancers of color. Some are Latino, one is Asian, and the remaining are African American. Most of the Latinos do very well, and so does the Asian. I frequently hear complaints from those who are Black, or some mix thereof. I cannot speak...

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Don’t be pimpin’ my stash!

I was asked in a private email by someone not yet in exotic dancing about ideas for keeping money and belongings safe while at work. Here are some possibilities for you to consider. You will have to adjust them to work for your personal situation. Lockers – This is the obvious choice. The pro is that you can keep your valuables and personal effects locked securely. The cons are that they may be either too big or too small for...

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Well, fuck you too…

I went to a very large party today for the first time in I don’t know how long. There must have been almost 100 gay men there, nearly all of whom were upstanding professionals in their 40’s – 60’s. Essentially it looked like I was walking into a gay bar frequented by older gentlemen, and that the club just happened to be at someone’s house. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. As soon as I saw...

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Corresponding from the he(art): My Target Audience

Dear Devon, You are a genius.  Your life and you living it as reflected in your blog is ART.  Thank you so much for sharing this art with the world, even though I am not, perhaps, your target audience. Sincerely, Jennifer*  *Explorer of the Farthest Reaches of The Internet, Lover of Men, Maleness, and Man-love in all its permutations. Dear Jennifer, I am sitting here stunned at your email. This is one of the kindest notes anyone has...

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Dating an exotic dancer: What you need to know

Last week there was a bit of a crisis with one of my friends and his girlfriend. She’d found some text messages on his phone that were (to an uninformed eye) extrememly shady and hurtful at best. I had to explain to her why she should not be upset about this particular set of messages from another woman. I was surprised that after nearly a year there were so many details she wasn’t aware of. My friend should have explained...

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A response: “These porn stars. Where do they all come from?”

Many of the threads on the site where I chat are ridiculous, stupid, infuriating, bitchy, mean, and generally worthless; however, they tend to generate some classic flame wars, so that makes them tolerable. I admit that my own contributions have often taken them in that direction. I’m not innocent in this. However, there is one thread running right now that is particularly interesting to me. The paraphrased title of the thread...

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Expanding interest

Hello, just a very brief entry to let you all in on some good news: BestGayBlogs.com is going to feature my site at some point! I don’t know when this will happen, but I’m very excited at the opportunity to reach out to new readers. I have also been receiving compliments from many of the sites I link to, as well as readers, about the quality of the content. I want to take a moment to acknowledge how much I appreciate...

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How to give a “proper” lap dance

I have to finally broach this topic. I don’t know why I’ve been putting it off, but I finally came across enough stupid “lap dances” on Youtube and saw enough retarded straight dancers giving zombie-like “lap dances” at Swinging Richards, and I have finally had enough. Whether you are a professional or not, the whole point of giving someone a dance is to make them feel sexy, as if they are the only...

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Your $1 is worth about ¢88 to me

Here I go again… explaining once more that it is not appropriate to dicker and dither. At some point people will finally understand exactly how insulting this is and stop. Some negotiating might be appropriate, but an outright bidding war is absolutely not acceptable. I was chatting yesterday and out of nowhere someone asked me to come dance at their election party. Mind you, there would have been five people splitting the fee....

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Bubba: I love my bubba.

I think what I want this blog to do, more than anything else, is help people in general realize that adult entertainment is a job and career like any other. It has perks and challenges. It has all the same salient features as any other career, but the product/service you are selling is… YOURSELF. That can be said of any sales person though. With that said, I want to bring attention to the fact that networking, friendship,...

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