Pussy Control
Today I had a couple significant firsts simultaneously in one appointment: I had sex with a woman for the first time, and at the same time I had an MMF three-way for the first time. I am no longer a gold-star gay. It has been the only thought on my mind since the moment this afternoon when I realized my client was female. I never presumed I would ever be with a woman (let alone within the context of escorting… let alone by...
What would your Mama say?!
It never ceases to amaze me how many little details I forget to blog about. I keep fretting, thinking that I’ll run out of interesting stories, but then a patron will ask me something or do something and I’ll remember there’s so much more to tell. So, people ask me fairly frequently (worded in various ways): “Does your mother know that you dance naked in bars?” Here’s the short answer: Yes....
The balance of bisexuality
Bisexual people have to be some of the most marginalized in our culture. They’re too queer for heterosexuals to understand or empathize with, and they’re too straight for queers to trust or fully embrace. The former tend to lump any degree of bisexuality together with “gay,” and the latter tend to stigmatize them as cowards or indiscriminate sluts. However, bisexuality is a true sexuality – it is not just...
Don’t ask, don’t tell
My entire life there has never been any question whatsoever from anyone I’ve ever met as to my sexuality. Suddenly that has changed. In February, 2008 I was dancing at WareHouse 250 in Florence, SC and no one would talk to me, make eye contact, or approach me. When I asked then-owner Jeffrey Brown what was happening he said, “They think you’re straight, and they’re scared to touch you.” The DJ then made...
Gay-sek-shul, bi-sek-shul, buy-sek-shul, & pay-sek-shul
Many, if not most, male exotic dancers in gay clubs are straight. Case in point: At Swinging Richards in Atlanta only 5-10 of the 60-65 dancers like men. I often get asked, “How can a truly straight guy allow men to touch him?” It’s quite simple: Until the mid-19th century there was no such concept as identity based on sexuality. No one was homosexual. The term itself didn’t exist until 1869. Although no one was homosexual as we...