Don’t be a vectem, betch.

“How are you?” I asked.


“Where are you from?”

“Ft. Lauderdale. There are other bystanders here for you to victimize. You can go now.”

“I’m glad this will be the only time I ever have to interact with you.”

Honestly, why would you go to a club that showcases dancers, and then act like we’re there to “victimize” you? I’ve had a variety of insults thrown at me, but that one is particularly hateful if you look at the terms this “person” used. The cover charge is only $5 at PT1109. Even if this “person” hadn’t known there’d be dancers, because he’s an out-of-towner, it wouldn’t have been a huge loss to turn around and walk back out (if dancers are offensive). Hell, they probably would’ve refunded the entry fee, if you stay that briefly.

There are at least two clubs in Ft. Lauderdale with male dancers. I don’t know what this patron’s interaction with them has possibly been, but when I encounter that level of toxicity I feel zero obligation to continue playing nice. These are the moments when I make patrons wake up and realize that I’m a human being, and not some kind of voodoo doll that can be abused in the place of whatever is causing them angst. I was so pissed with this person that I walked away with him yelling something indecipherable to my palm.

I was in a bad, bad mood already from sheer exhaustion. Of course, this patron didn’t know that, but I was not the stripper to sass that night. I then went and told the other dancers about his attitude problem. Dude got no play that night. If you think dancers don’t talk to each other, you better recognize. If he weren’t attracted to me, that’s fine. I definitely wasn’t attracted to him.

But that’s not the issue. How difficult is it to simply be polite?

Author: Devon Hunter

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  1. Idiots are all over the place!!!

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  2. Devon: I had to literally read this twice, as I was waiting for the the punchline somewhere. It still amazes me how people can be so rude & cruel to others without provocation. There are 100’s of ways to politely say, ‘I’m fine, but not interested. thanks’. It goes to show that there are alot of people who are miserable with their own existence and choose to channel their negative energy and hurtful words onto others. Kudos to you for keeping your cool and just walking away without incident. He probably couldn’t afford a dance from you anyway — we both know he probably used whatever tip he would’ve given you on the entrance fee (lol) … stay sweet & positive and don’t let the words of idiots penetrate you!!

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  3. it is a sad testament to the fact that our society has lost the basics….civility.

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