Condoms are so 1985

Believe it or not, this is the response I got from three different people in D.C. last weekend. I’d asked three people if they’d like to be part of an advertising campaign to promote safe sex. All three rejected me. Two said, “Condoms are so 1985,” and the third said, “Condoms are so 1980’s.” A fourth person finally said “yes,” but I’ve not heard from him since. It had never occurred to me that safe sex was trendy, much less that condoms were connected in some way to fashion. This attitude may explain why D.C. has the highest rate of new HIV infection for 2008 in the United States. Perhaps condoms should be so 2009?

I am trying to help a doctor friend of mine in the capital to get free safe sex kits into various venues throughout the city. We are hoping to generate some new stategies for encouraging safe sex/safer sex alternatives. It is obvious that the standard American model for teaching anything sexual to anybody is a general failure, and I think it’s because the well-intended professionals in this country have done everything possible to make safe sex look like a sterile, dehumanized, anti/non-sexual hassle. Droning on and on about numbers, and threatening people with consequences isn’t working. (Of course it doesn’t help when medicines are advertised showing stunning models.) A different approach is definitely needed.

Dr. Terence Gerace, a medical professional in Washington, D.C., will be exploring options for eroticizing condoms, and will eventually be producing videos that allow users of his website, www.fc-kits.org, to interact in creative ways with the multimedia that will eventually be added to the site. (Just a head’s up: I plan to interview Dr. Gerace soon, so don’t be surprised when you see his name come up again). If you are interested in being part of this project, check out www.fc-kits.org and contact the site administrators.

There are going to be some changes to the blog in the coming weeks. I announce this here in this particular entry, because it is connected to what is happening behind the scenes in D.C. I may be exploring a new avenue of adult entertaiment. One that has, at its core, a philosophy that is not like any other I’ve heard of or seen. Not to be cryptic, but I may have some big announcements about the direction of my career by the end of this summer.

Author: Devon Hunter

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  1. isn’t it true that most/all fashions come back every 20 years or so?? this is definitely one that needs to.

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  2. Here is the first of my two replies to Jonathan:

    Devon Hunter said
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    April 23, 2009 at 10:11 am
    Actually, one of the two dancers is named JR. He works at Secrets. The next time you presume to accuse me of lying, I suggest you bring it directly to me, sir.

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  3. And here is the second:

    Devon Hunter said
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    April 23, 2009 at 10:34 am
    Also a few clarifications on some erroneous presumptions on your part: I am not from D.C. I live in Charlotte, NC, and the only people I knew to ask on behalf of Dr. Gerace were people at Secrets, the club where I was dancing for the weekend. I was not “on the street,” nor was I “passing out condoms.” I was in a club, not necessarily an environment where people want to be approached about anything as serious as safe sex.

    I asked three dancers and a patron, for reasons connected to the project Dr. Gerace has in mind. I do not live in D.C., therefore I know the name of only two of the three dancers (the two who rejected me were in the same room and echoed each other’s precise “1985″ comment), and I do not know the patron in question at all (the person who made a reference to the 80’s, but not 1985). The fourth person, the third dancer, is named Brad, and he said yes to me, that he would be involved.

    I would appreciate it very much if you would speak about your perspectives from your experience and not try to push your experiences onto my perspective. Thank you.

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  4. I felt obliged to post my own responses here on the offchance that Jonathan doesn’t have the gumption to approve them himself.

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  5. My sincere apologies. I did make the mistake simply because I’d read on the Washington City paper site that you’d “hit the streets.” I then got it in my head that you were asking strangers and they were responding with the quotes you mentioned. It now makes much more sense. Thank you for the clarification, and forgive me for picking a fight. It was a misunderstanding on my part to begin with, and I then unnecessarily took it further.

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  6. Not a problem. If I’m in PA and can help you in your campaigns in any way, please let me know.

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  7. Hey Devon, glad to see you publicizing Terry’s campaign through your blog. As a resident of DC who has spent the past 6 years in this city on and off I can attest to the fact that HIV/AIDS represents a serious health risk in the gay community and beyond. A rather blase attitude towards sex seems to have taken root here, as it invariably has in other cities around the country. I worry that this may be at least partially related to the impression that HIV is a mangeable illness thanks to modern retrovirals. While many of us have positive friends who live seemingly normal lives (and this is a wonderful thing, don’t get me wrong) we are endangering ourselves and others when we ignore the history of this virus and its potential to destroy lives. I urge you all to check out the website and share it with others. It’s bad enough that we tend to closet our sexuality, we can’t afford to closet sex education as well. Seriously, could there be anything lamer than learning to put a condom on using a cucumber? I suppose that should you require further inducement to patronize the campaign’s website, Devon will hopefully be gracing its pages with his adorable mug and washboard abs. There’s my plug for the day.

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